Oct 30 2008
Jealousy and a police report
One thing that has caused a great deal of heartache in our family was blending our family. When my husband and I married almost eight years ago, he had two children and I had two children. As luck would have it I didn’t have any nasty ex’s in my life, but he came with baggage and it was SIGNIFICANT baggage.
When we first introduced our mini Brady bunch, they hit it off famously. The girls were (his) ten and (hers) nine, and the boys were (his) eight and (hers) two. Being only nine months apart in age the girls hit it off right away. It was a little more difficult for the boys because of the age difference, but all was well.
FOR A WHILE…
Then the evil, jealous ex-wife reared her ugly head. In her world, if she isn’t happy, then no one may be happy. She just couldn’t accept the fact that her husband had moved on and was happy (and she was the one who had wanted the divorce.)
She tried everything possible to come between me and her children and then my husband and his children. The final straw was her filing criminal charges against my little guy: domestic violence/assault with a deadly weapon, and sexual assault.
My poor little guy had been watching their sibling interactions and was copying them. There was always a coveted position on the couch and my hubby’s son would climb behind his sister and push her with his feet until he got the position. So my little guy did this and apparently it was perceived as sexual assault when my step daughter told her mother about it.
The boys were in the kitchen cutting a piece of watermelon in two when my step daughter took the knife away from them (cutting her finger = very small cut.) This was taken as assault with a deadly weapon by the evil ex-wife when my step daughter told her mother about it.
My husband and I were in the next room when both of these incidents occurred. There had been no screaming for help or running into the next room for assistance.
Isn’t it amazing how sibling jealousy and then ex-wife jealously can turn so horribly wrong and then it be blamed on the small one in the house who has a diagnosis they think they can blame it on?
It was thrown out / charges were never filed because my son was only six years old. How can things get so blown out of proportion?
Have any of you had any issues with others who don’t understand Asperger’s?
Thanks for reading, I look forward to your comments
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I don’t have anything like that because of my son’s uniqueness, but I certainly know about the ugliness from an ex, in this case mine, who is willing use children to try to control someone else. I hope things have improved since that ridiculous charge, but I’m sure it was miserable for all concerned, including your stepdaughter.
Isn’t it amazing what adults will put their children through.
My first husband said, “You get her, I get this … you get her, I get this …” As if the privilege of raising my daughter made me want to fight him for any material things. It is always a sad situation.
I just hope someday, my step-children will realize that I was just trying to be someone else who cared about them. They were lucky to have a mother who loved them, a father who loved them, and then an extra person in their lives who loved them.
In this case, the evil ex- couldn’t WIN! My daughter found her step sister on the internet through my space and they have recently re-connected and emailing each other every day!
Thanks for reading & commenting,
Jan